Sunday, November 17, 2013

The Root of the Problem

Discovering the root of the my problem isn't that difficult.

The bottom line, my basic expenses outweigh my income:
Expenses
Rent $1,295.00
Storage* $112.00
Car Insurance $135.00
Gym $49.99
Electric / Gas Expense $25.00
Cable / Internet/Phone $150.00
Groceries/Household $250.00
Gasoline $100.00
Car Note $233.00
Childcare $625.00
Laundry** $25.00
$2,999.99

*Since I downgraded from a 2 bdrm to a studio, I had to put things in storage
**I live in an apartment with coin op laundry

My current income is $2,640.00; my new salary of $2974 isn't effective til Dec. 6th but it still doesn't cover the expenses.

Based on the numbers above, I have a deficit of ($359.99).

Prior to this income, my income was zero and I had to rely on personal loans from friends and family to cover my monthly expenses (hence the personal debt outlined on the side). I was already in the hole so the loans never covered all expenses, it was just a rolling deficit every month.

Not included in the figures: car maintenance, school expenses for my son, loans, savings, debt, my son's therapy (the school doesn't cover everything for his needs).

I don't want to dwell on the problem, but had to back it up for the blog purposes.

So far, I have downgraded my living, eliminated all expenses such as gym membership, I have searched for part-time job and do part-time childcare and I have asked for a raise at work (which they were not happy about).

My new solution, find a new job, since I have the skills, education and determination.

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Laying my cards out on the table

The first step in any journey is being honest with the situation and I'm ready to be honest and put my cards out on the table; here it goes....
  • I have borrowed money from each and every friend I know and my mother. I currently have several personal loans out--4 to be exact; in addition I have 3 payday advance loans (figures to follow in a separate post).
  • I make $52,000 annually in the Bay Area where my salary does not compliment the cost of living.  I live in a modest apt (a studio, with my child) and my expenses are over my annual income.
  • I have quite a bit of debt that I have incurred over the past years (post divorce).
  • In addition to my debt, I have a few moving violations as well as other tickets including parking.
  • No credit card/bad credit.
How I got into this mess....

Excuses/Highlights of the issues that I have gone through and deal with
  1. I was married for over 8 years; I got divorced because my ex husband had addiction issues that I could not deal with.  At the same time we had a small child with special needs and I wasn't working (got laid off from a great paying job due to the economy)
  2. I divorced thinking my ex would assist me with child support and spousal support.  At the time of our divorce our child was severely delayed and I was driving him to a dozen therapy appointments a week and could not work
  3. My ex got fired leaving me with no money, no support and he did not offer to watch our son or want to.  This isn't about throwing him under the bus, just the facts
  4. I had to work hard to find miscellaneous jobs that gave me the flexibility to chauffeur my child to all his therapies.  These jobs were very low paying
  5. When my child got school age; I was able to look for a full-time job.  I could not find a full-time job and when I did they offered a very low pay.  That is where I am now, I have a full-time job as an analyst and I'm making what I made in my 20s for a lower rent
  6. After divorce, my son and I lived in a wonderful 2 bedroom/2 bath for 4 years but had to give that up because the rent kept going up and up and couldn't afford $2100...now I am paying $1300 for a studio~ette! Not even a full studio
  7. I have to be honest and say in the past, I have spent money that I shouldn't have on dinners/drinks out with the ladies because I do love to socialize. I felt like that was my only outlet in such a stressful time, but that is few and far between and not really happening now in the past 6 months.  I am trying to save every dollar and really be more conscience about my spending
Lessons
  • Never rely on your partner..not being negative, but things do happen so it's best to rely on yourself and yes, I always knew this lesson but I let it slide because I enjoyed being a housewife and trusted my partner
  • Have as many skills as you can to outshine your opponents in this job war (I have 2 degrees mind you! so not sure why I can't find a full-time job paying what I am worth...but I intend to)
  • Network!!! Having a healthy network and staying in touch with people can only help you. That is the reason for how I managed to get by
  • Do more conscience spending...I'm trying to ask, do I need it or want it...and I need to do better with deals, sales and coupons!

Updates
My son's father now gives me $300 a month; although he can earn more than 6 figures but chooses not to for whatever his reasons.  I did apply and qualify for a secured credit card.  I am in the process of searching for another higher paying job.  I want to move my son and I out of this studio!

This blog will serve as a journey and tracking device to get my premium assets!